Some of you may know that I have a coaching program. It includes two weekly live yoga sessions. This is not with just any instructor I could find. They are the best yoga teachers I have ever worked with in the past 30 years that I have been practicing yoga. 

Last week, I had the opportunity to log in and attend one of those live sessions myself. It was out of this world. That particular session was taught by Ami. She likes to set an intention for the session and often wraps it up with a 15 minute guided meditation at the end. 

Her theme was: Nothing changes if nothing changes.

You can read that again. 

Are you trying to change something in your life that is less than ideal? It’s hard for me to guess what that may be for you. Pause for a second and ask yourself, is there an aspect of your life that could be somehow improved? Or changed altogether? 

You may not know this, but I have a FaceBook group for physicians. I created it last July in the middle of the Pandemic to calm us all down somehow. It is partly my own thoughts and partly sharing inspirational photos from Hawaii since people long for tropical vacations.  When I started this group, I was writing daily posts. Monday through Friday. I did it for almost two months straight. I actually loved doing it. Sharing what was on my mind and then extending it to others so we would all see that the struggle we face every day is simply the “Human Experience”. 

In one of those posts, I wrote about my last relationship. How he was a great human being but we were not meant to be together and on a very fundamental level, I was not happy in that relationship. I talked about how I left when I was good and ready. I did not leave as an angry person. 

There was no good guy. There was no bad guy. We just didn’t seem to agree on much of anything.

I think unintentionally I am quoting a country song with similar lyrics! 

But listen. Life is short. I did not want to be in a relationship that was not a happy one. 

That post got a lot of positive feedback. One particular person messaged me directly to let me know that because of that post she decided to leave her husband.

I can promise you that was not my intention. 

On the other hand, when you really think about: Nothing changes if nothing changes.

If your life is not as you wish it to be, if you are running around with your hair on fire that you cannot seem to have enough hours in the day to do what you want to do, you can change. If you can’t manage your relationships and you are falling farther and farther behind on your charting, billing, paperwork: something has to change. 

No one will change it for you. You will. I could help guide you. I can inspire you, but the actual change happens within you. You need to want to change. 

This is not someone else’s life that you are watching from above. It is your life. You can absolutely change aspects of your life that you would like to see improve. 

You can’t simply close your eyes and have a different outcome. 

You can become someone who will make different habits to create a different future. Nothing is more noticeable in terms of the benefit of consistent habit than in yoga and meditation. When you skip a day or two, your mind starts to wander and you cannot seem to bring it back. Bringing your thoughts back to your breath will feel like a chore. On the other hand, if you set your intention to make a commitment to yourself, to keep showing up for yourself, something magical happens. A momentum will form that tends to carry your forward. Your own word and intention will get you to where you need to be going. 

It is because you made a conscious decision to make a change, you will see a change in your life, too.

If you struggle with a home that is cluttered, or can’t get a handle on your time management, you can consider working with a coach. I am offering a 12 week program starting March 28th.

Or you can simply commit to yourself to do some changes on your own to make changes in your life to see a different result. 

I can tell you that had I stayed in my old relationship, I would have had a very different life today. I am glad I made that change. The life I have created for myself today is because of my decision 18 years ago that not being happy was a good enough reason to leave.

Nothing changes if nothing changes. 

With so much love and Aloha.